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Sex Ed in Pop Culture: So She’s Wants to be Called a Dirty Slut?

I love seeing more and more conversations about sex in pop culture. Sex isn’t always sexy especially if you’re a teenager or new to exploring your sexuality. That’s why I had to take a look at the Netflix series ‘Sex Education’. In the episode they cover the very real awkwardness that can come with introducing dirty talk into the bedroom. What does she want? When does she want it? What are each of you comfortable ... Read more

Elite Daily Interviews Kenneth Play & Dr. Zhana

What is sex coaching and what does it mean to be a sex educator? Watch as Elite Daily interviews personal trainer turned hands-on sex educator (and yours truly) Kenneth Play and sex educator, researcher, and writer, Dr. Zhana.

Squirting Secrets Shared!

There is very limited science on squirting, which my colleague Dr. Zhana has sifted through extensively while working on the Science of Squirting video (check it out on my Youtube!) for my online course. Dr. Zhana and I also talked squirting together on an episode of her Science of Sex Podcast — combining her academic research expertise with my hands-on “research” when it comes to making vagina-owners squirt. 😂 Just how many vaginas have I ... Read more

Mindfulness Hack to Overcome Performance Anxiety: Sensate Focus

During this pandemic I know a lot of you are feeling stressed. Here’s my care package just for you, featuring a proven mindfulness sex hack to help you manage your anxiety and practice self-care. As many of us quarantine, it can be an amazing time to reconnect with our romantic partners who are isolating with us. Endless time to communicate, unearth unexplored desires, lots of date nights in, etc. But if you suffer from performance ... Read more
Kenneth and Geronimo propose to Karen

One Bride, Two Grooms

I’m so excited to share with you all that I’m engaged — actually, co-engaged — with my now-fiance Karen, and my metamour Geronimo. We are in a polyamourous relationship, specifically a V-triad, meaning that Geronimo and I are a-sexual and a-romantic with each other, but both deeply in love with Karen. She said yes, and yes! As modern love rapidly changes in a world of globalization and technology, the number of people practicing forms of ... Read more
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Epic Romantic Sex Hack (Free Tutorial on Pornhub)

On this Valentine’s Day I want to embody the art of giving pleasure. In our world of screens, we don’t often spend intentional, whole-heartedly connected time with the people we love. We poke fun at memes like “forget flowers, find my G-spot”, but people really do value effort and being seen. I want to help you bring all of that into a sensual, spellbinding, pampering experience for your lover.   My Valentine’s present to you ... Read more
KP blog #41 on list of top 50 sex advice blogs

#41 of the Best Sex Advice Blogs!

I recently had the honor of this blog being listed in the Top 50 Sex Advice Blogs of 2019! I’m so glad that people enjoy the advice I give and stories I tell here, especially since many of them are important to me too.  In case you’re new to my site, or you don’t often check out the Kenneth Play blog, here are my 5 most popular blog posts, in honor of the top 50 ... Read more

A Little Death Podcast with Alana Heiss

I recently was lucky to re-connect with my friend Alana Heiss, and join her on her podcast “A Little Death”! Alana is the amazing author of my GQ feature and an amazing human. We chatted about my new Sex Hacker Pro Course, the ways we want to change sex education and spread pleasure, and what I’m planning for the future! Alana and I talked about the benefits and the technical aspects of the Sex Hacker ... Read more

Tips n’ Tricks for Lickin’ Clits!

Aka, how I starred in my first porn film I’m probably the most unlikely porn star. Average sized cock, Asian immigrant, a sex nerd / hacker / educator. But as of today’s film release, I’ve starred in a porno. Okay, to be fair, I’m not talking, like, Brazzers. The film that was released today, “Tips n’ Tricks for Lickin’ Clits”, is an Erika Lust film directed by Reed Amber and Florence Barkway, of Come Curious. ... Read more

Men’s Health: How I Acquired My Orgasmic Wisdom

Men’s Health talked with me about how I became Kenneth Play: Sex Hacker, in their newest article. It covers my career journey, how I came to teach sex skills, and shows how my personal transformation influenced my teaching style. Growing up as an awkward Asian immigrant with an average sized cock meant that I never expected to have the life I do now. In fact, I was pretty sure I would never even get laid ... Read more
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Course Review: The Sex Ed Teacher You Never Had

Sex education in schools (and often from our parents/care-takers) is really bad. There’s honestly no nice way to put it: sex ed for most of us sucked. And we’ve probably spent most of our adult lives trying to overcome these deficiencies. When we become sexually active, most of us know nothing about anatomy let alone pleasure and the many ways to tap into it. The clitoris? Nope, not in the textbook. Advantages of different positions? ... Read more
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AskMen Reviews the Pro Course!

When it comes to learning about sex, the decision to pursue a full course can be a tough one. And while I can tell you all about how great my Sex Hacker Pro Course is, I also know how valuable an unbiased review can be to your decision-making. Will this course be right for you? Will it answer your most vulnerable questions? Who is this guy claiming he can transform your sex life? And why ... Read more

Growth Mindset, Sexual Pleasure, & Expressing Yourself

It’s been a whirlwind few months! Aside from the usual coaching and learning, I launched a brand new course with over 70 videos, got engaged, and have been doing lots of interviews to spread my vision for a pleasure-filled world. I believe that it’s so important to talk about sexuality and pleasure, especially our struggles and obstacles, because it can inspire others to completely transform their sex life, to feel less alone, or to finally ... Read more

The Science Behind Common Roleplaying Scenarios

Have you ever felt intrigued by living out a fantasy or experiencing a shift in dynamics with your partner? While some may feel these interests are taboo, the desire to roleplay in the bedroom is a very common and healthy one. It taps into instincts through the experience of “safe danger”: the exciting physiological reaction to fear (adrenaline rush, increased heart rate, intense focus) with no real danger present. Think of it like a rollercoaster ... Read more
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The Patriotic Power of Sex and Fireworks

It’s finally the Fourth of July— loud explosive fireworks and bright, beautiful colors of assorted flares fill the summer air, leaving you with feelings of thrill and elation. These excitements aren’t just limited to the eyes and ears, however. The stimulation of fireworks electrifies your parasympathetic nervous system, the root of your sexual arousal, as well as your sympathetic nervous system, which is in charge of your orgasm. Do you know what that means? Sex– ... Read more

How to Talk Dirty (and avoid awkwardness)

HuffPost has started an amazing new series that I’m so excited for!! Sex Ed for Grown-Ups will tackle everything you didn’t learn about sex in school — beyond the birds and the bees. And I’m even more excited to be featured in one of their first articles to announce the new series — “How To Talk Dirty Without Being Awkward” by Brittany Wong. Let’s talk dirty talk! I love dirty talk. I love communicating about sex ... Read more
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Sex Geek Summer Camp

It’s been quite a journey giving up a successful fitness education career and diving into sex education professionally. Looking back at 2014, I was full of hesitation and fear of a life-altering career choice. But I can whole-heartedly say that attending the first Sex Geek Summer Camp and meeting Reid Mihalko gave me the confidence, life lessons,  and encouragement to be the sex educator I am today. Because of Reid’s teachings, I am now more ... Read more

Ejaculation Etiquette

Sexual communication is about more than just arousal and preferences — sometimes it’s also about the climax experience. Alex Manley and I recently talked about this often overlooked topic for Ask Men’s article Ejaculation Etiquette: Where to Cum and What to Do After. Now, of course, if you’re using a condom with your sexual partner, this may not be a conversation at all because you’ll most likely ejaculate into that well-contained latex sleeve. But if you ... Read more

5 Tips For Pleasing People With Vulvas

Regardless of gender, all of us our robbed of a comprehensive sex education, especially around pleasure. That’s why I decided to turn the “elusive” topic of female pleasure into practical sex education courses and advice, that people could take action on immediately. Only one in four cisgender women regularly report orgasming during penetrative intercourse,  but we can change this statistic together, and the first step is understanding the limitless potential of female pleasure. Suzannah Weiss agrees, ... Read more

Sex Positions to be a Rim Job Pro

I get a lot of questions about anal play. Like, a lot. And besides recommending that you get good at everything else first, my second piece of top advice is that you follow the ranks of anal play and prep: rub, lick, finger, dick. Rub the outside of the anal entry to relax your partner and stimulate the surface nerves; lick their entrance with a good rim job; start slow and play with inserting fingers; then ... Read more

The Only 3 Sex Toys to Use, According to an Aficionado

I take great pride in the amount of sex toys I’ve tested and love, but there is one man who’s even more passionate about toys than me: my friend Grant Stoddard. Grant has been attending my workshops and writing about me for a while now, and that coupled with his love of trying new things means that he’s probably surpassed me in sex toys tried. At the end of the day, though, trying all those ... Read more

The 1st Ever World Love Summit!

Imagine walking into your next Swinger Party with complete confidence that the night is going to go great! Everyone you talk to you get along with. You have more ‘options’ then you’ve ever had before. Even your partner is thanking you for crafting such a magical experience that you know will strengthen your relationship. Those feelings of confusion, feeling out of place, not knowing what to say or how to start a conversation with that ... Read more

The Top 3 Qualities of an Amazing Lover

Ah, the eternal question: what will make me the best lover? The sex advice industry is full of answers, some more legitimate than others. But let’s clear the air right away: the answer isn’t a steel erection, magical endurance, or a porn-start penis — as I say in my trailer, it’s more about confidence and competence! Men’s Health and I are trying to spread this message so more men (and their partners!) can have the ... Read more

Myths Men Should Unlearn About Sex

There are so many sex myths holding us back from living the love life of our dreams, and so many that men specifically have yet to unlearn. This is why I was so excited to talk to AskMen for their article “Things Guys Need to Unlearn About Sex: Sex Myths Men Should Forget Right Away” — it’s time to share some knowledge! As Alex Manley says in the article, sex education is already a pretty ... Read more

How to Respond to Nudes Like a Pro

Maybe you read my last blog post about sending sexts that don’t suck (check it out here if you didn’t!) and wanted to dive deeper into the art of responding to nudes? Well you’re in luck because Ask Men focused specifically on this when they asked my advice for their article How to Respond to Nudes Like a Pro! So you’ve received a nude, eh? You lucky boy, you! If you want to keep receiving ... Read more

How to Write a Sext that Doesn’t Suck

The Huffington Post recently featured my advice in their article “How to Write a Sext that Doesn’t Suck”! Sexting is such an underrated form of foreplay, so this article was awesome to be a part of. I would even say that sexting is one of the most crucial skills in your dating strategy! One of my top tips, and HuffPost’s, is to make sure your sexting is consensual! As I told them in my interview, ... Read more

Kenneth Guest Stars on The Science of Sex Podcast!

Episode #56 – Squirting School Squirting is really having a moment right now! My colleague Dr. Zhana and I have always been asked a ton of questions about squirting, or female ejaculation, so I was excited to join her and her colleague Joe on their podcast The Science of Sex this week! There is very limited science on squirting, which Dr. Zhana recently sifted through extensively while working on our online squirting course that I ... Read more

Dr. Zhana Talks Squirting with Dan Savage 💧

My longtime friend and colleague, sex educator/researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, is the featured guest this week on Dan Savage’s ‘Savage Love’ podcast, discussing female ejaculation, a.k.a. ‘squirting’. “Squirting is really having its moment,” says Dr. Zhana, adding that “It’s one of the most common questions I get… both men and women are interested inlearning how to squirt or make their partners squirt.” And I can agree! Squirting isn’t just for porn, but is a fun ... Read more

My Cock is Anal Friendly

I had the joy of being featured as part of The New York Post’s newest video “Show Me Your Junk”, where men address the myths and struggles of penis size. This video has made me think a lot about how proud I am now of my average sized cock, but how I wasn’t always that way. I used to be the kid who hid in the locker room and refused to take public showers, even ... Read more

Tips for a Kinkier New Year

New year, new you, new sex life? Whether better sex officially made your Resolution list, or you’re looking to bring joy to January, it’s always fun to try something new in the bedroom. HuffPost recently interviewed me and other fantastic sex educators for new things to explore this year. Check it out here! In particular, I talk about my hot oil massage sex hack! I want to make sure you have all the tools to ... Read more

Hacienda featured on The Love Drive!

My colleague and amazing friend Lila, of horizontal with Lila, recently was a guest on The Love Drive Show to talk about intentional communities, sex parties, and non-monogamy — and she gave a shout out to my work too! Sex parties and the sex positive community can be somewhat intimidating when you first decide to immerse yourself in it. But as Lila explains, a lot of it is about finding the place and the people ... Read more

Grant Goes on a Mission to Enjoy Shower Sex

Water pouring over skin, hot steam filling the room, massaging touch through soap and suds to find all the right buttons… There’s a lot of reasons why shower sex is my favorite, but the reason I like it most is that it becomes a full sensory experience. The sound and feel of the water, the temperature of the steam, the worship of washing one another’s bodies before and after… add in some candles or music ... Read more

The Scientific Secret of the Female Orgasm!

My frequent collaborator Dr. Zhana has an amazing podcast that you may know, called The Science of Sex, and I recently re-listened to one of my favorite episodes from the very beginning about the female orgasm and clitoris. In this episode, Dr. Zhana and Joe Pardavila speak with Dr. James Pfaus about the “elusive” female orgasm, and why we consider it so mysterious! He published a study on this very topic in 2016, and shares all sorts of ... Read more

Embracing Your Desires & the Unapologetic Sexuality

Some of the most rewarding moments from my work with Back to the Body are when women truly embrace not only their desires, but also their own power to ask for those desires and seek them out. It’s an embracing of who they are that stands in defiance to lifelong lessons that their wants and needs matter less. Pam, of the blog Down to There, recently wrote an amazing post about her perspectives on the ... Read more

Kenneth Talks with Tonic about the Elusive Squirt!

Kenneth recently chatted with Tonic writer Grant Stoddard about the real fountains of Bellagio — squirting. After 15 years of writing about sex, Grant had always wanted to master the skills to bring his partner’s to ejaculation, and finally did after he walked into Kenneth’s playlab. Check out the article to hear Grant’s experience witnessing the phenomenon of female ejaculation and acquiring the skills himself: “This Is What Comes Out When a Woman Ejaculates” You ... Read more

Featured in Vice! “9 Supplies All Good Sex Parties Have”

I’m so excited to see Hacienda’s sex party skills featured at Tonic! Check out our tips on the supplies you need on hand to throw a sex party like the pros: “9 Things All Good Sex Party Hosts Will Have on Hand”  

Your Sexual Freedom is at Risk

  My Business Partner Dr.Zhana and I been working on this post. SESTA (Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act) and FOSTA (Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act) are two bills that were recently passed by Congress and signed into legislation by President Trump. What they essentially do is make it easier for victims and prosecutors to sue websites that knowingly “assist, facilitate, or support sex trafficking” by holding them legally accountable for any of the paid-for sexual ... Read more

Can We Learn From Porn?

The prevalence of porn and its effect on how we view sexuality as a society has always been a hot topic, and I don’t think it’s going anywhere anytime soon. But you know what else isn’t going anywhere? Porn. The porn industry is always on the cutting edge of technology, and I think that, as technology continues to improve, the number of people consuming porn will only increase. Why take an anti-porn stance, when we ... Read more

The Best Sex Scenes in Movies

I was thrilled when Olivia Collette reached out to me to comment for this piece for RogerEbert.com about how to make sex scenes that women will like watching. This topic is so important to me, and I love reading what other people in the industry think about this issue, too! When it comes down to it, a lot of media portrayals on sex do not focus on female pleasure. We rarely see stimulation of the ... Read more

Post-Sex Hacks You Don’t Want To Skip

I’m loving this article on Vice I was quoted in about how the concept of aftercare applies to vanilla sex as much as it applies to kink scenes! For those who might not know, aftercare is an essential practice for the kink community to help facilitate a “soft landing” after an intense sexual experience. People have different needs sexually, and that extends into what people want from aftercare. I find that the easiest and most ... Read more

Bringing Sex Coaching to China

I’m breaking into the Chinese market! Goddess Temple has done a really fun piece with me for their readers (article is in Chinese). Because such a big part of my own sexual journey involved overcoming stereotypes directed towards Asian men, I always love an opportunity to reach this audience. They’ve already gotten a lot of feedback from their readers about what skills they’d like to learn from me, so I’ll be creating more content with them in ... Read more

Unraveling Female Promiscuity

I was honored to join Wednesday Martin, PhD (author of the upcoming Untrue, on female lust and infidelity)  and MacKenzie Peck (Feminist Pornographer, Math Magazine) on the Future of Sex podcast, talking all about female promiscuity. This two-part podcast touches on so many topics that I love to geek out about. One of my favorite moments is when we talk about sociosexual orientation, which is essentially the spectrum of how easily you’re aroused by new people. I explain ... Read more

How Do I Get My Girlfriend To Do Anal?

Time Out New York just featured me and some other awesome sex-positive people in New York City for our work! I talk a bit about my Squirting PlayLab What’s the most in-demand class you teach? The most popular one I host focuses on female ejaculation. It sells out every time. It’s kind of fascinating to see a room full of strangers practicing this technique together. A lot of times, one person will orgasm, and then ... Read more

Vaginal vs. Clitoral Orgasms

When it comes to female pleasure, there’s a lot of talk about different types of orgasms. There are many accounts from women who’ve had orgasms from stimulating their nipples, cervix, and even earlobes! But a lot of the conversation centers around internal and external orgasms, and whether every woman can experience both of these types. Dr. James Pfaus (aka “The Vagina Doctor”) has done a lot of research about clitoral vs vaginal orgasms. In a ... Read more

Is Your Penis Good Enough?

The Post just released this interview with me about my top 5 sex hacks for loving the penis you have! This interview was challenging, because the Post kept pushing towards this narrative that your cock is not big enough, so here are some pro-tips on how to compensate for your average-sized cock. And the message that I want to tell people is that there’s no need to compensate! You are not sexually broken. You are ... Read more

Pleasure Mapping: Sex Hacking Guide to Navigating the Clit

The clitoris is like an iceberg; only a small part of it is exposed, and the majority of it is internal. So it’s not the easiest thing in the world to tell your partner how to touch your vulva, let alone how to find and stimulate your g-spot. There’s a lack of information on female pleasure available to the general public, and I’ve seen many of my clients unsure of how to figure out what their ... Read more

What’s Your Love(making) Language?

In my work as a sex coach, I’ve found that a lot of people struggle to figure out what they want. They have no frame of reference to even begin answering that question. There are so many options when it comes to sex, it can be hard to pinpoint what exactly appeals to you. So that’s why I was so excited when I found the Erotic Blueprints framework, designed by my sex educator role model, ... Read more

Grapefruiting with This is Why You’re Single

I was on the hilarious podcast, This is Why You’re Single! I talked to them about sex, orgasms, hand jobs, blowjobs, tantric, squirting…all my favorite topics! 😉 I even share a personal story about the time I was “grapefruited”! And I love the message they wrote when they signed my copy of their book: You can listen below or here!

Pussy Mapping and Sex Coaching (Fatherly.com)

Blown away by this piece on my coaching for Fatherly! I couldn’t have said it better myself. I really love working with couples, and it’s amazing to see some of the essence of that captured here. People in the media often wonder why a couple would ever see a sex coach. I think this piece does a good job of diving into that: “If people have been together for a really long time, they kind ... Read more

Supporting Women of Sex Tech (New York Times)

The New York Times published this amazing piece on New York women who are making waves in the sex tech industry. What an honor to be an ally and support these awesome women! I’ve had amazing opportunities to work with a lot of the women mentioned in this piece. This summer, I was on one of Future of Sex‘s panels. I’ve partnered with Unbound (use code “PLAY” for 10% off your first purchase) to curate custom ... Read more

My Sex Life is Spread All Over the NY Post!

There’s nothing like waking up on a Sunday morning to see your sex life spread in a print newspaper! So I dropped everything (pants included) to share this exciting piece from the NY Post about Hacienda! As you probably know, Hacienda Villa is the sex-positive intentional community that I co-founded and live in. It was fantastic to do this feature with the NY Post that allowed us to be ourselves! I’ve been open about my ... Read more

Playlist to Fuck to, Part 2

Has anyone tried out my recommendation from the last Playlist to Fuck to? Hope you enjoyed it! 😉 This week, I’m recommending Rodaliquar by Bluestaeb. This is a much more chill, laid-back vibe, perfect for a date night with your partner. Check it out!

Combatting Asian-American Stereotypes

I’m so honored to be profiled on Chinese site The Initium! As an Asian-American, I’ve been surrounded by negative stereotypes about my own sexuality. I grew up feeling really sexually invisible. Asian male sexuality is the butt of the joke when it comes to penis size or just not being attractive. So it’s very exciting to see this transformation beginning, and to have the opportunity for this exposure in Asia! So if you’re an Asian or Asian-American, please ... Read more

100,000 Views on Pornhub!

Remember all the exciting press coverage about Pornhub’s new sex ed site? I’m really proud to be a contributor to this project. I want to make sex ed as accessible as porn, and collaborating with Pornhub as a one-stop shop for both is a great way to do that!

Playlist to Fuck to, Part 1

Welcome to a new weekly feature I’m starting: Playlist to Fuck to! From going to sex parties to meeting new partners to my own personal preferences, I’ve encountered a lot of sexy scenarios with a lot of different sounds in the background. I’m sure I’m not alone in finding some songs to be better than others when I’m getting in the mood! For this first installment, I’m sharing one of my favorites: Soul Visions, a collaborative ... Read more

Coaching Virgins Before Their First Time, Part 1

I’m really excited that I had the honor to coach someone before his first time having PiV with his girlfriend! Because he is a teenager and couldn’t afford my rates, I took him on as a client pro-bono. This was a really rewarding experience for me, and I asked him if he’d let me share this story so that we could share what we learned with anyone else in the same situation. This client (I’ll ... Read more

Fighting for Sexual Freedom 2017

What a week Dr. Zhana and I had participating at Naughty in Nawlins with over 2,000 attendees! Looking back on one of our favorite events of the week, the Sexual Freedom March, we were reminded of the progress made for LGBTQIA rights. 10 years ago, we couldn’t imagine one of the most powerful corporations in the world, like Apple, having an openly gay CEO. While it’s not a perfect analogy, we’re excited to see polyamorous and kinky communities ... Read more

The Consequences of Female Promiscuity

I was so honored to be asked to be a panelist for Future of Sex’s recent Summer Series Event. Unraveling Female Promiscuity. If you weren’t able to be there in person, I wanted to share some of my thoughts on how female promiscuity and sex hacking go hand-in-hand to make an exciting, sexy vision of our future. (And the podcast of the panel will be out soon, so keep an eye out!) We’ve all heard ... Read more

What is it Like to Build a Sex+ House?

Narrative.ly recently did a feature on Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community that I co-founded with Andrew Sparksfire. The piece really got me thinking about my personal path to becoming involved with the Villa, which I don’t think I’ve shared on my blog before. What started out as a passion project, helping my friend Andrew Sparksfire build this community for throwing sex parties, grew to creating a culture worth spreading. The article tells Andrew’s journey ... Read more

Disrupting Sex Education

 Whoa. It was amazing to watch this clip of The View talking about my sex coaching, and to hear Ken Jeong mention me by name! But one thing that the segment made clear to me: There’s a huge difference between what people think I do and what I actually do. Sex education in American schools is lacking compared to other developed countries. Debates about comprehensive sex ed versus abstinence-only sex ed have been raging, despite ... Read more

What Goes On At A Sex House: My Podcast Interview with Dr. Jess!

Toronto’s Dr. Jess interviewed me on her on her Sex with Dr. Jess podcast! We talked about what goes down at the Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community I co-founded. Dr. Zhana joined me to share a Sex Hack on dealing with last minute date cancellations! Check out the podcast here: What Goes On At A Sex House: Kenneth Play on Sex with Dr. Jess  

I am the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker, According to GQ!

I can’t get over this article about me on GQ! I’m so embarrassed by this amazingly flattering article! Learning humility has been a huge part of my own sex education, so seeing an article like this is a bit flustering for me! My goal is to get more men invested in female pleasure rather than investing in the male ego. But hooray for sex education becoming more mainstream!!

My Private PlayLabs are Receiving International Attention!

That’s right, my Private PlayLabs are being featured around the world! Check out this recent article in The Sun! Here’s one of my favorite parts of this piece: Kenneth, who has been a sex coach for three years, said: “It’s not that much different to be a personal trainer. “People can be shy because we aren’t comfortable in talking about sex, but what I teach is very informative and educational, like a show and tell. ... Read more

Polyamory and Millennials

I was quoted recently in a piece for AvvoStories on millennials and polyamory. Personally, I’m just on the cusp of what most people would consider a “millennial.” I don’t think that has contributed to my interest in polyamory, but I do think that the ability to spread things to a larger audience has contributed to more people being interested in it. Obviously, polyamory has been around for longer than the millennial generation, but the internet ... Read more

Spiritual Sexual Satisfaction

I was recently featured on the podcast Eros Evolution, which is all about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality.  Being on the podcast got me thinking about the external versus the internal experience of sex. One of the easiest examples of this is porn. As we all know, porn can have the appearance of being a pleasurable experience externally, but the internal experience might be totally different. In Western culture, we’re always trying to explain ... Read more

Authentic AF Sex Coaching

  Whoa, check out this amazing piece from Elite Daily about sex coaching featuring my business partner, Dr. Zhana, and me! For a lot of people, talking about sex is challenging.  Even the most sex-positive, open people can have trouble feeling comfortable talking about sex.  My goal as a sex coach is to encourage clients to be as authentic and honest as possible.  This allows me to diagnose the challenge they’re facing, or help them ... Read more

Love the Penis You Have

A lot of people feel insecure about their bodies.  I’ve talked before about stigma surrounding penis size, but whether or not a penis is circumcised can also contribute to penis insecurities. Luckily, this piece on Refinery29 is combating that stigma and spreading education about uncircumcised penises!  Check it out here: 5 Things to Know About Uncircumcised Penises. And remember, whether you’re anxious about your circumcision, un-circumcision, length, girth, or anything to do with your penis size, ... Read more

Blowjob Hack (Gag Reflex)

A lot of people who give blowjobs are concerned about their gag reflex.  As with any sex act, it’s important for all parties to be enjoying the experience, whether they’re giving or receiving. Hop on over to Refinery29 to hear this sex hack that sexperts swear by, including yours truly.

What Does a Sex Coach REALLY Do?

If you’re struggling with fitness, there’s tons of ways to get better.  You can Google fitness tips, read a fitness book, or talk to a fitness coach at a nearby gym.  No matter who you are, info about fitness is very accessible.  I was a fitness coach for 15 years, and I saw how that level of accessibility made a difference in my clients’ lives.  Specifically, the amount of guidance offered by a coach is really ... Read more

Some people say I’m the Phil Jackson of Sex Coaching…

Or at least Grant Stoddard seems to think so in his article for Vice, “I Hired a Coach to Watch Me Have Sex.” Nothing makes me happier than teaching someone a skill that they’re curious about but are hesitant or afraid to learn.  Everybody has that one sexy thing they’ve always wondered about. If I can teach you and your partner new ways to give each other pleasure reliably, your life is changed from that ... Read more

What’s More Important to You: Love or Lust? by Dr. Zhana

Check out this post by my business partner, Dr. Zhana! We know, it’s not an entirely fair question–what if both are really important to you?–but let’s say you had to choose one. Which one would it be? Valentine’s Day is here, and with it comes a multitude of messages to buy chocolates, flowers, expensive dinners and other aphrodisiacs to spread the love, or get you in a lustful mood. From heartfelt cards to heart-shaped vibrators ... Read more

Koala Orgasm: Put a ring on it

Fear is one of the most common responses from men when I encourage them to incorporate toys into their playtime. Men often have the false belief that if they incorporate toys in play, they’re incompetent or can’t satisfy a woman without the toys. For me, it’s been quite the opposite experience. I have dozens of sex toys in my room, and my partners get excited about all my pleasure tools and can’t wait for me to ... Read more

I Spread My Legs for Cosmo

"I don't have to defend my hetero." Cosmopolitan just published an article where they interviewed some sex-party veterans to find out just what goes into our sex-party attire. The flavors and styles they found run the gamut, and I was fortunate to be among the lovely, sexy people profiled, and here is what I wore:

Free Video Tutorial for Blended Squirting Orgasms!

I spoke to Santa, and I heard you’ve been naughty all year. But I pulled some strings, and I was able to get your name back on the (sexy) gift list. Ready for your Christmas present? FREE SEX HACKING INSTRUCTIONAL VIDEO! I’m giving you a free, full-length instructional video about how to use two of my absolute favorite sex toys –the Njoy Pure Wand and the LELO Smart Wand (note: I’m not affiliated with LELO ... Read more

All Tied Up: Rope Bondage VIDEO TUTORIALS!

I recently filmed some rope-bondage tutorials with Happy Kitten Rope! We focused on the basic techniques: some quick, simple approaches that get you a lot of bang for your buck. Getting started in Rope Bondage can be a little intimidating at the start, but I want to assure you that you don’t have to be a Shibari master to have fun tying up your partners…or getting tied up yourself. Whether you know it by name or ... Read more

Interview With the “Guys We Fucked” Podcast!

I’m so incredibly honored to have been a special guest for this sold-out live recording of the “Guys We Fucked” Podcast in the famous Carolines on Broadway! I had such a blast on the show, giving a mock squirting hack and explaining PNF anal stretching on stage in Times Square. I’m still glowing with excitement. Sex hacks aside, this episode is a really emotional one. In the beginning of the podcast (I come in at ... Read more

What I keep in my Sex Party Go-Bag!

Cosmopolitan interviewed me and some other Sex Party Pros to find out what kinds of things we keep in our “Go-Bag” when we’re headed out! I laid out all my must have toys, safer sex supplies, and the other pro items I always want to have on hand at a Play Party. There are some great ideas for putting together your own bag, and be sure to check out what the others had to share. Many ... Read more

Synchronized Play for Simultaneous Feels: Epic Sex Toy Hacking with LELO

I’m so excited to share my experience with the LELO Tiani and LELO Hugo toys. As a sex hacking expert, the minute I saw these toys and figured out how they worked, my mind was flooded with possibilities for ways to use them together with a partner to take sex to new orgasmic heights. First, let me tell you about these amazing toys. The Lelo Tiani 24k is a couples’ vibrator meant to be worn ... Read more

Penis Size – Sex & Stigma

"My name is Kenneth Play and I have an average-sized penis."

Thrillist calls Hacienda Villa and my PlayLabs one of the top places to explore sex in NYC!

After publishing the article featuring the gangbang gift I helped bring to life, Thrillist surprised me with a shoutout to Hacienda Villa and my PlayLabs in an article about taking sex outside the bedroom in New York. The article, “The Best Underground Sex Clubs and Parties to Explore in NYC,” said it best: “Seventh-grade sex ed will seem like Sunday School after a session at the Sex Hacking Playlab with sexpert Kenneth Play, held at Hacienda ... Read more

Thrillist Article About a Gangbang Birthday Gift (Featuring Tips by Yours Truly)

I was featured in an article for Thrillist featuring a story about a gangbang birthday gift for my friend’s girlfriend. It’s truly amazing to have male friends who I feel comfortable playing with. For all you heterosexual guys out there concerned about how gangbangs and group play affect your sexuality, let me say that it’s not at all about sexual orientation. That’s in your mind, and only you decide what turns you on. This was about working ... Read more

Ethical Slut Social Live Videos!

For those of you who missed the Ethical Slut Social, check out the three-part video below! “PolyTalks and Wry Relationships” are guided open forums in a Q&A format. They explore Consensual Non-monogamy, Mono-Amory, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, DADT, swingers, BDSM, casual sex, non-exclusive dating, threesomes, and anything outside the realms of traditional monogamous heteronormativity. On September 10, Hacienda Villa hosted a panel discussion featuring Janet Hardy, one of the authors of The Ethical Slut. Thank you ... Read more

Inside Look at Hacienda Villa

What is there to say about this BRIC TV video on Bushwick’s polyamory house that wasn’t already said with lingering shots of curved faucets and supple hands wrapped around goblets of wine? Check out this article written by Gothamist about Hacienda Villa, and the two videos below:  

Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It

Check out the New Yorker’s piece, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It, to find out more about my research project The Casual Sex Project, what it does, and how I got started on it!