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Sex Ed in Pop Culture: So She’s Wants to be Called a Dirty Slut?

I love seeing more and more conversations about sex in pop culture. Sex isn't always sexy especially if you're a teenager or new to exploring your sexuality. That's why I had to take a look
Sex Hacking, VLOG

Elite Daily Interviews Kenneth Play & Dr. Zhana

What is sex coaching and what does it mean to be a sex educator? Watch as Elite Daily interviews personal trainer turned hands-on sex educator (and yours truly) Kenneth Play and sex educator, researcher, and
Popular, Pornhub Worthy, Sex Hacking, Squirting

Squirting Secrets Shared!

There is very limited science on squirting, which my colleague Dr. Zhana has sifted through extensively while working on the Science of Squirting video (check it out on my Youtube!) for my online course. Dr.
Sex Hacking, VLOG

Mindfulness Hack to Overcome Performance Anxiety: Sensate Focus

During this pandemic I know a lot of you are feeling stressed. Here’s my care package just for you, featuring a proven mindfulness sex hack to help you manage your anxiety and practice self-care. As
Kenneth and Geronimo propose to Karen
Polyamory

One Bride, Two Grooms

I'm so excited to share with you all that I'm engaged -- actually, co-engaged -- with my now-fiance Karen, and my metamour Geronimo. We are in a polyamourous relationship, specifically a V-triad, meaning that Geronimo
a photo of Kenneth performing the Goddess Bath ritual
Popular, Pornhub Worthy, Sex Hacking, VLOG

Epic Romantic Sex Hack (Free Tutorial on Pornhub)

On this Valentine’s Day I want to embody the art of giving pleasure. In our world of screens, we don’t often spend intentional, whole-heartedly connected time with the people we love. We poke fun at
KP blog #41 on list of top 50 sex advice blogs
Popular, Sex Hacking

#41 of the Best Sex Advice Blogs!

I recently had the honor of this blog being listed in the Top 50 Sex Advice Blogs of 2019! I’m so glad that people enjoy the advice I give and stories I tell here, especially
Sex Hacking, Sex Myths

A Little Death Podcast with Alana Heiss

I recently was lucky to re-connect with my friend Alana Heiss, and join her on her podcast “A Little Death”! Alana is the amazing author of my GQ feature and an amazing human. We chatted
Sex Hacking, VLOG

Tips n’ Tricks for Lickin’ Clits!

Aka, how I starred in my first porn film I’m probably the most unlikely porn star. Average sized cock, Asian immigrant, a sex nerd / hacker / educator. But as of today’s film release, I’ve
Sex Hacking, Sex Myths

Men’s Health: How I Acquired My Orgasmic Wisdom

Men’s Health talked with me about how I became Kenneth Play: Sex Hacker, in their newest article. It covers my career journey, how I came to teach sex skills, and shows how my personal transformation
a woman biting a pencil in bed
Sex Hacking, Sex Myths

Course Review: The Sex Ed Teacher You Never Had

Sex education in schools (and often from our parents/care-takers) is really bad. There’s honestly no nice way to put it: sex ed for most of us sucked. And we’ve probably spent most of our adult
blocks spelling out "sex education"
Sex Hacking

AskMen Reviews the Pro Course!

When it comes to learning about sex, the decision to pursue a full course can be a tough one. And while I can tell you all about how great my Sex Hacker Pro Course is,
Sex Hacking

Growth Mindset, Sexual Pleasure, & Expressing Yourself

It’s been a whirlwind few months! Aside from the usual coaching and learning, I launched a brand new course with over 70 videos, got engaged, and have been doing lots of interviews to spread my
Kink, Popular, Sex Hacking, Sex Myths

The Science Behind Common Roleplaying Scenarios

Have you ever felt intrigued by living out a fantasy or experiencing a shift in dynamics with your partner? While some may feel these interests are taboo, the desire to roleplay in the bedroom is
sex and fireworks
Sex Hacking, Sex Myths

The Patriotic Power of Sex and Fireworks

It’s finally the Fourth of July— loud explosive fireworks and bright, beautiful colors of assorted flares fill the summer air, leaving you with feelings of thrill and elation. These excitements aren’t just limited to the
Kink, Sex Hacking

How to Talk Dirty (and avoid awkwardness)

HuffPost has started an amazing new series that I’m so excited for!! Sex Ed for Grown-Ups will tackle everything you didn’t learn about sex in school — beyond the birds and the bees. And I’m even
picture of sex geek summer camp attendees
Casual Sex, Sex Hacking

Sex Geek Summer Camp

It’s been quite a journey giving up a successful fitness education career and diving into sex education professionally. Looking back at 2014, I was full of hesitation and fear of a life-altering career choice. But
Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Ejaculation Etiquette

Sexual communication is about more than just arousal and preferences — sometimes it’s also about the climax experience. Alex Manley and I recently talked about this often overlooked topic for Ask Men’s article Ejaculation Etiquette: Where
Female Pleasure, Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking, Squirting, Toys, Tutorial

5 Tips For Pleasing People With Vulvas

Regardless of gender, all of us our robbed of a comprehensive sex education, especially around pleasure. That’s why I decided to turn the “elusive” topic of female pleasure into practical sex education courses and advice,
Anal, Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Sex Positions to be a Rim Job Pro

I get a lot of questions about anal play. Like, a lot. And besides recommending that you get good at everything else first, my second piece of top advice is that you follow the ranks of
Sex Hacking, Things I Love, Toys

The Only 3 Sex Toys to Use, According to an Aficionado

I take great pride in the amount of sex toys I’ve tested and love, but there is one man who’s even more passionate about toys than me: my friend Grant Stoddard. Grant has been attending
Casual Sex, Polyamory, Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking

The 1st Ever World Love Summit!

Imagine walking into your next Swinger Party with complete confidence that the night is going to go great! Everyone you talk to you get along with. You have more ‘options’ then you’ve ever had before.
Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking

The Top 3 Qualities of an Amazing Lover

Ah, the eternal question: what will make me the best lover? The sex advice industry is full of answers, some more legitimate than others. But let’s clear the air right away: the answer isn’t a
Genital self esteem, Sex Coaching, Sex Myths

Myths Men Should Unlearn About Sex

There are so many sex myths holding us back from living the love life of our dreams, and so many that men specifically have yet to unlearn. This is why I was so excited to
Sex Coaching

How to Respond to Nudes Like a Pro

Maybe you read my last blog post about sending sexts that don’t suck (check it out here if you didn’t!) and wanted to dive deeper into the art of responding to nudes? Well you’re in
Tutorial

How to Write a Sext that Doesn’t Suck

The Huffington Post recently featured my advice in their article “How to Write a Sext that Doesn’t Suck”! Sexting is such an underrated form of foreplay, so this article was awesome to be a part
Dr. Zhana, Podcast, Squirting

Kenneth Guest Stars on The Science of Sex Podcast!

Episode #56 – Squirting School Squirting is really having a moment right now! My colleague Dr. Zhana and I have always been asked a ton of questions about squirting, or female ejaculation, so I was
Dr. Zhana, Podcast, Squirting

Dr. Zhana Talks Squirting with Dan Savage 💧

My longtime friend and colleague, sex educator/researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, is the featured guest this week on Dan Savage’s ‘Savage Love’ podcast, discussing female ejaculation, a.k.a. ‘squirting’. “Squirting is really having its moment,” says Dr.
Genital self esteem

My Cock is Anal Friendly

I had the joy of being featured as part of The New York Post’s newest video “Show Me Your Junk”, where men address the myths and struggles of penis size. This video has made me
Kink, Sex Hacking

Tips for a Kinkier New Year

New year, new you, new sex life? Whether better sex officially made your Resolution list, or you’re looking to bring joy to January, it’s always fun to try something new in the bedroom. HuffPost recently
Casual Sex, Hacienda Villa, Podcast, Polyamory

Hacienda featured on The Love Drive!

My colleague and amazing friend Lila, of horizontal with Lila, recently was a guest on The Love Drive Show to talk about intentional communities, sex parties, and non-monogamy — and she gave a shout out
Sex Hacking, Things I Love

Grant Goes on a Mission to Enjoy Shower Sex

Water pouring over skin, hot steam filling the room, massaging touch through soap and suds to find all the right buttons… There’s a lot of reasons why shower sex is my favorite, but the reason
Casual Sex Project, Dr. Zhana, Podcast

The Scientific Secret of the Female Orgasm!

My frequent collaborator Dr. Zhana has an amazing podcast that you may know, called The Science of Sex, and I recently re-listened to one of my favorite episodes from the very beginning about the female
Back to the Body, Sex Coaching

Embracing Your Desires & the Unapologetic Sexuality

Some of the most rewarding moments from my work with Back to the Body are when women truly embrace not only their desires, but also their own power to ask for those desires and seek
PlayLabs, Squirting, Tutorial

Kenneth Talks with Tonic about the Elusive Squirt!

Kenneth recently chatted with Tonic writer Grant Stoddard about the real fountains of Bellagio — squirting. After 15 years of writing about sex, Grant had always wanted to master the skills to bring his partner’s
Hacienda Villa, News, Popular, Things I Love

Featured in Vice! “9 Supplies All Good Sex Parties Have”

I’m so excited to see Hacienda’s sex party skills featured at Tonic! Check out our tips on the supplies you need on hand to throw a sex party like the pros: “9 Things All Good
News

Your Sexual Freedom is at Risk

  My Business Partner Dr.Zhana and I been working on this post. SESTA (Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act) and FOSTA (Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act) are two bills that were recently passed by Congress and
Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Can We Learn From Porn?

The prevalence of porn and its effect on how we view sexuality as a society has always been a hot topic, and I don’t think it’s going anywhere anytime soon. But you know what else
News

The Best Sex Scenes in Movies

I was thrilled when Olivia Collette reached out to me to comment for this piece for RogerEbert.com about how to make sex scenes that women will like watching. This topic is so important to me,
Casual Sex, News, Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Post-Sex Hacks You Don’t Want To Skip

I’m loving this article on Vice I was quoted in about how the concept of aftercare applies to vanilla sex as much as it applies to kink scenes! For those who might not know, aftercare
News, Sex Coaching

Bringing Sex Coaching to China

I’m breaking into the Chinese market! Goddess Temple has done a really fun piece with me for their readers (article is in Chinese). Because such a big part of my own sexual journey involved overcoming stereotypes directed
Casual Sex, News, Podcast

Unraveling Female Promiscuity

I was honored to join Wednesday Martin, PhD (author of the upcoming Untrue, on female lust and infidelity)  and MacKenzie Peck (Feminist Pornographer, Math Magazine) on the Future of Sex podcast, talking all about female promiscuity. This two-part
Anal, News, Sex Coaching

How Do I Get My Girlfriend To Do Anal?

Time Out New York just featured me and some other awesome sex-positive people in New York City for our work! I talk a bit about my Squirting PlayLab What’s the most in-demand class you teach?
Podcast, Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking

Vaginal vs. Clitoral Orgasms

When it comes to female pleasure, there’s a lot of talk about different types of orgasms. There are many accounts from women who’ve had orgasms from stimulating their nipples, cervix, and even earlobes! But a
Genital self esteem, Sex Coaching

Is Your Penis Good Enough?

The Post just released this interview with me about my top 5 sex hacks for loving the penis you have! This interview was challenging, because the Post kept pushing towards this narrative that your cock
Sex Coaching, Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Pleasure Mapping: Sex Hacking Guide to Navigating the Clit

The clitoris is like an iceberg; only a small part of it is exposed, and the majority of it is internal. So it’s not the easiest thing in the world to tell your partner how to
Sex Coaching

What’s Your Love(making) Language?

In my work as a sex coach, I’ve found that a lot of people struggle to figure out what they want. They have no frame of reference to even begin answering that question. There are
Podcast

Grapefruiting with This is Why You’re Single

I was on the hilarious podcast, This is Why You’re Single! I talked to them about sex, orgasms, hand jobs, blowjobs, tantric, squirting…all my favorite topics! 😉 I even share a personal story about the
News, Sex Coaching

Pussy Mapping and Sex Coaching (Fatherly.com)

Blown away by this piece on my coaching for Fatherly! I couldn’t have said it better myself. I really love working with couples, and it’s amazing to see some of the essence of that captured
News

Supporting Women of Sex Tech (New York Times)

The New York Times published this amazing piece on New York women who are making waves in the sex tech industry. What an honor to be an ally and support these awesome women! I’ve had
Hacienda Villa, News, Polyamory

My Sex Life is Spread All Over the NY Post!

There’s nothing like waking up on a Sunday morning to see your sex life spread in a print newspaper! So I dropped everything (pants included) to share this exciting piece from the NY Post about
Playlist to Fuck to

Playlist to Fuck to, Part 2

Has anyone tried out my recommendation from the last Playlist to Fuck to? Hope you enjoyed it! 😉 This week, I’m recommending Rodaliquar by Bluestaeb. This is a much more chill, laid-back vibe, perfect for
News

Combatting Asian-American Stereotypes

I’m so honored to be profiled on Chinese site The Initium! As an Asian-American, I’ve been surrounded by negative stereotypes about my own sexuality. I grew up feeling really sexually invisible. Asian male sexuality is the butt of
Tutorial

100,000 Views on Pornhub!

Remember all the exciting press coverage about Pornhub’s new sex ed site? I’m really proud to be a contributor to this project. I want to make sex ed as accessible as porn, and collaborating with Pornhub as
Playlist to Fuck to

Playlist to Fuck to, Part 1

Welcome to a new weekly feature I’m starting: Playlist to Fuck to! From going to sex parties to meeting new partners to my own personal preferences, I’ve encountered a lot of sexy scenarios with a
Sex Coaching

Coaching Virgins Before Their First Time, Part 1

I’m really excited that I had the honor to coach someone before his first time having PiV with his girlfriend! Because he is a teenager and couldn’t afford my rates, I took him on as
Casual Sex, Polyamory

Fighting for Sexual Freedom 2017

What a week Dr. Zhana and I had participating at Naughty in Nawlins with over 2,000 attendees! Looking back on one of our favorite events of the week, the Sexual Freedom March, we were reminded of the
Casual Sex, Podcast

The Consequences of Female Promiscuity

I was so honored to be asked to be a panelist for Future of Sex’s recent Summer Series Event. Unraveling Female Promiscuity. If you weren’t able to be there in person, I wanted to share
Hacienda Villa, News, PlayLabs, Polyamory

What is it Like to Build a Sex+ House?

Narrative.ly recently did a feature on Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community that I co-founded with Andrew Sparksfire. The piece really got me thinking about my personal path to becoming involved with the Villa, which
News, Sex Coaching

Disrupting Sex Education

 Whoa. It was amazing to watch this clip of The View talking about my sex coaching, and to hear Ken Jeong mention me by name! But one thing that the segment made clear to
Casual Sex, Hacienda Villa, Podcast

What Goes On At A Sex House: My Podcast Interview with Dr. Jess!

Toronto’s Dr. Jess interviewed me on her on her Sex with Dr. Jess podcast! We talked about what goes down at the Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community I co-founded. Dr. Zhana joined me to share a
News, PlayLabs

I am the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker, According to GQ!

I can’t get over this article about me on GQ! I’m so embarrassed by this amazingly flattering article! Learning humility has been a huge part of my own sex education, so seeing an article like this is
News, PlayLabs

My Private PlayLabs are Receiving International Attention!

That’s right, my Private PlayLabs are being featured around the world! Check out this recent article in The Sun! Here’s one of my favorite parts of this piece: Kenneth, who has been a sex coach
Polyamory

Polyamory and Millennials

I was quoted recently in a piece for AvvoStories on millennials and polyamory. Personally, I’m just on the cusp of what most people would consider a “millennial.” I don’t think that has contributed to my
Podcast

Spiritual Sexual Satisfaction

I was recently featured on the podcast Eros Evolution, which is all about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality.  Being on the podcast got me thinking about the external versus the internal experience of sex.
Casual Sex, News, Sex Coaching

Authentic AF Sex Coaching

  Whoa, check out this amazing piece from Elite Daily about sex coaching featuring my business partner, Dr. Zhana, and me! For a lot of people, talking about sex is challenging.  Even the most sex-positive,
Genital self esteem, Sex Coaching

Love the Penis You Have

A lot of people feel insecure about their bodies.  I’ve talked before about stigma surrounding penis size, but whether or not a penis is circumcised can also contribute to penis insecurities. Luckily, this piece on Refinery29
Sex Hacking, Tutorial

Blowjob Hack (Gag Reflex)

A lot of people who give blowjobs are concerned about their gag reflex.  As with any sex act, it’s important for all parties to be enjoying the experience, whether they’re giving or receiving. Hop on
News, PlayLabs, Sex Coaching

What Does a Sex Coach REALLY Do?

If you’re struggling with fitness, there’s tons of ways to get better.  You can Google fitness tips, read a fitness book, or talk to a fitness coach at a nearby gym.  No matter who you
News, PlayLabs, Sex Coaching

Some people say I’m the Phil Jackson of Sex Coaching…

Or at least Grant Stoddard seems to think so in his article for Vice, “I Hired a Coach to Watch Me Have Sex.” Nothing makes me happier than teaching someone a skill that they’re curious
Casual Sex, Toys

What’s More Important to You: Love or Lust? by Dr. Zhana

Check out this post by my business partner, Dr. Zhana! We know, it’s not an entirely fair question–what if both are really important to you?–but let’s say you had to choose one. Which one would
Things I Love, Toys, Tutorial

Koala Orgasm: Put a ring on it

Fear is one of the most common responses from men when I encourage them to incorporate toys into their playtime. Men often have the false belief that if they incorporate toys in play, they’re incompetent or
News, Things I Love

I Spread My Legs for Cosmo

“I don’t have to defend being hetero anymore.” Cosmopolitan just published an article where they interviewed some sex-party veterans to find out just what goes into our sex-party attire. The flavors and styles they found run the
Popular, Things I Love, Toys, Tutorial

Free Video Tutorial for Blended Squirting Orgasms!

I spoke to Santa, and I heard you’ve been naughty all year. But I pulled some strings, and I was able to get your name back on the (sexy) gift list. Ready for your Christmas
Popular, Things I Love, Tutorial

All Tied Up: Rope Bondage VIDEO TUTORIALS!

I recently filmed some rope-bondage tutorials with Happy Kitten Rope! We focused on the basic techniques: some quick, simple approaches that get you a lot of bang for your buck. Getting started in Rope Bondage can
News

Interview With the “Guys We Fucked” Podcast!

I’m so incredibly honored to have been a special guest for this sold-out live recording of the “Guys We Fucked” Podcast in the famous Carolines on Broadway! I had such a blast on the show,
Casual Sex, Things I Love, Toys

What I keep in my Sex Party Go-Bag!

Cosmopolitan interviewed me and some other Sex Party Pros to find out what kinds of things we keep in our “Go-Bag” when we’re headed out! I laid out all my must have toys, safer sex
Casual Sex Project, Toys

Synchronized Play for Simultaneous Feels: Epic Sex Toy Hacking with LELO

I’m so excited to share my experience with the LELO Tiani and LELO Hugo toys. As a sex hacking expert, the minute I saw these toys and figured out how they worked, my mind was
Casual Sex, Genital self esteem, Sex Coaching

Penis Size – Sex & Stigma

I was just featured in an article for refinery29, The Best Sex Positions When Your Partner Isn’t Necessarily Endowed by Alden Wicker, that discussed the stigma around small penises and how certain sexual positions make
Casual Sex, Hacienda Villa, News

Thrillist calls Hacienda Villa and my PlayLabs one of the top places to explore sex in NYC!

After publishing the article featuring the gangbang gift I helped bring to life, Thrillist surprised me with a shoutout to Hacienda Villa and my PlayLabs in an article about taking sex outside the bedroom in
Casual Sex, News

Thrillist Article About a Gangbang Birthday Gift (Featuring Tips by Yours Truly)

I was featured in an article for Thrillist featuring a story about a gangbang birthday gift for my friend’s girlfriend. It’s truly amazing to have male friends who I feel comfortable playing with. For all you heterosexual
Hacienda Villa, Polyamory

Ethical Slut Social Live Videos!

For those of you who missed the Ethical Slut Social, check out the three-part video below! “PolyTalks and Wry Relationships” are guided open forums in a Q&A format. They explore Consensual Non-monogamy, Mono-Amory, Polyamory, Relationship
Hacienda Villa, News

Inside Look at Hacienda Villa

What is there to say about this BRIC TV video on Bushwick’s polyamory house that wasn’t already said with lingering shots of curved faucets and supple hands wrapped around goblets of wine? Check out this
Casual Sex Project, News

Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It

Check out the New Yorker’s piece, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It, to find out more about my research project The Casual Sex Project, what it does, and how I got started on it!