(Men’s Health) The 20 Best Books for Your Sex Life

(Men’s Health) The 20 Best Books for Your Sex Life

"For every person out there that thought they were supposed to just be “naturally good at sex,” this book [Beyond Satisfied] aims (and delivers) to prove that great sexual partners are made, not born. A combination of science and experience, this book is aimed at men...

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(InsideHook) The Secrets of an International Sex Hacker

(InsideHook) The Secrets of an International Sex Hacker

“Having money, physical fitness and attractiveness does not translate to good sexual experiences,” says Play. “You could be a freaking Jeff Bezos, but it doesn’t mean that you’re automatically the GOAT in the bedroom if you are a GOAT in the boardroom.” - Kenneth Play...

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Girl-On-Top Anal

Girl-On-Top Anal

"You can do anal in any of the positions that you do vaginal sex in. But there is one in particular that is great for beginners. The cowgirl position covered in the previous chapter gives your part- ner more control over the depth, angle, speed, and sensation of anal...

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Anal Penetration

Anal Penetration

"Hold the head of your cock and align the angle so your pee hole is in a straight line with your partner’s anus. This is like threading the eye of a needle - alignment matters. You don’t want to angle your cock up or down as that will likely be uncomfortable for your...

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Release the Kraken

Release the Kraken

"Finally, if your partner likes this so far and you feel she’d enjoy some more intense sensations, I have a move I jokingly call “release the Kraken.” To do this successfully, you’ll need a partner who is willing to fully trust and surrender to her own bodily...

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Signature Move For Anal

Signature Move For Anal

"The first trick is an extension of what I call my “signature move,” the squirting technique you learned in Chapter Twelve. The principle is exactly the same, but instead of inserting your fingers into the vagina, you insert your fingers into the anus. You’re aiming...

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PNF Stretching for Anal

PNF Stretching for Anal

"You can also help your partner stretch her anus just like an athlete would stretch a muscle by using PNF stretching (proprioceptive neuromuscular facilitation). This type of stretching was designed to relax muscle and increase tone or activity. This is the reason I...

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45 Degree Angle

45 Degree Angle

"Anything inserted in the butt - whether fingers, a toy, or a penis - feels better when angled upward towards the belly button at a forty-five-degree angle. This forty-five-degree angle rule was popularized by Gigi Engle, an amazing sex educator colleague of mine,...

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Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse Cowgirl

"Have your partner turn to face away, and let her hold your penis to insert it in herself. She can stay upright, or she can give you a fuller view of her vulva by holding your ankles and tilting her butt back. She can give herself stimulation by riding up and down, or...

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Cowgirl

Cowgirl

The image above shows her gyrating and the image below shows her in more of an up-and-down motion. "In cowgirl, you lay on your back as your partner rides your cock. This is a great position to get comfortable and relax as your part- ner moves in the ways that feel...

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Doggy Style

Doggy Style

"In doggy style, your partner is on her hands and knees. Her back is arched, her knees are wide apart, and her butt and vulva are on full, beautiful display. Take a moment before you enter your part- ner to stroke her body and appreciate her. Have her look back at you...

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Side Angle

Side Angle

"Having your partner lie on her side is a great way to put her in a comfortable position while still giving you access to play with your partner’s boobs, slap the side of her thigh, or caress her body. This is also an easy position for her to play with her own clit...

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Missionary Position

Missionary Position

"With your partner on her back, you have access to stroke her belly and play with her boobs. You can playfully slap her thighs if she likes a little impact. Because you’re face-to-face in missionary position, you can look your partner in the eyes and connect with her...

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Angle of Penetration

Angle of Penetration

"If I’m fucking a new partner who isn’t used to directing her partner for her pleasure, I ask her to move in the way that feels good to her. Pay attention to the angles she uses. If you’re fucking in missionary position, your cock most likely goes pretty straight into...

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Pleasure Sucker

Pleasure Sucker

In the image below, the area of suction is broader and covers more surface area, covering her labia, hood, and clitoris all together. The image above shows a much smaller area, focusing in on just the clitoris only. "To build your skills at sucking, pucker your lips...

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Licking with the Tip of the Tongue

Licking with the Tip of the Tongue

The image above shows licking up and down directly on the clit and the image below shows licking the clit from side to side. Use your thumb to pull up the hood so you have more direct contact with the exposed clitoris. Pro tip: this increases sensitivity, so you will...

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Licking with a Flat Tongue

Licking with a Flat Tongue

The first image shows licking the entire vulva from the bottom up, where the next shows focusing in on the clit by limiting the range of motion. "When you’re ready to start oral sex, don’t go straight for the clit or the vaginal opening. Kiss her vulva all around to...

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Face Fucking

Face Fucking

"It may seem like a counterintuitive place to start, but one way to get a partner warmed up is to have her sit on my face. It’s a great mindfulness hack for my partner, because it flips roles on the Wheel of Consent. I’m no longer touching my partner for her pleasure;...

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Bouncing the Cervix

Bouncing the Cervix

"An advanced trick for women who like a lot of stimulation to their cervix is to reach your finger deep towards the A-spot, with the pad of your finger pressing down on the cervix. Flick your finger to bounce the cervix up and down, almost like dribbling a...

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Massaging the Cervix

Massaging the Cervix

"You can also play with the cervix, making circles around the donut. With big circles, you can continue to stimulate the A-spot in front and the P-spot in back. You can also make smaller circles on top of the donut, around the hole, with your fingers or a penis. You...

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Fingering the P-Spot (Posterior Fornix)

Fingering the P-Spot (Posterior Fornix)

"With your fingers inside your partner’s vagina, carefully turn your hand palm-down and trace your fingers around the cervix to feel the back wall of the vagina. This spot behind the cervix is the posterior fornix, or P-spot." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by...

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Fingering the A-Spot

Fingering the A-Spot

"Reach your finger deeper in to find the A-spot, just in front of your partner’s cervix, closer to her belly button." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 10: Fingering, Internal Touch

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Knees to Chest

Knees to Chest

"You may need your partner to hold the backs of her knees towards her chest in order to get your fingers deep enough, so her pelvis curls towards her belly like it would in the fetal position. You’re trying to get her clit closer to her nose, so to speak." - Excerpt...

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Inside and Outside

Inside and Outside

"If your partner likes even more firm sensation in this area, you can use your other hand to press down on her lower abdomen from the front, pushing the front wall of her vagina back into your other hand." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 10:...

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Moonwalk

Moonwalk

"You can also curl your fingers upward in a walking motion like you’re doing the moonwalk on her front vaginal wall with your fingers. This is a variation in sensation that some people really like. As you do it, pay attention to your fingertips, trying to feel the...

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Come Hither Motion

Come Hither Motion

"To create maximum sensation on the G-spot, uncurl your fingers all the way so they press towards the back wall of the vagina. As you uncurl your fingers towards the back wall of the vagina, you’re creating more range of motion. Then you can generate more force as you...

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Stacking Fingers

Stacking Fingers

"If you want to insert two fingers, stagger your index finger on top of your middle finger so they create the least amount of surface space sliding into the vaginal opening." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 7: Fingering, Different Strokes, p....

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Before and After: Fitness Transformation

Before and After: Fitness Transformation

Disadvantaged From Day One In my teens, I was a skinny Asian immigrant kid. I wanted to be physically attractive, so I got into swimming as my first foray into any type of physical fitness. And learning how to swim was where I first got a taste for the concept of a...

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Stretching Downwards

Stretching Downwards

"When you’re ready to slide your fingers in, turn your hand palm-up so your fingernail presses against the bottom of her vagina, towards her anus. The bottom wall of the vagina stretches the most, and your lubed-up finger will slide in smoothly." - Excerpt from Beyond...

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Labia Massage

Labia Massage

"Before you slide your fingers inside your partner’s vagina, tease around the vaginal opening to get the tissues warmed up to sensation." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 7: Fingering, Different Strokes, p. 232

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Knuckle Rub

Knuckle Rub

The first gif shows the giver's hand going in a wider, circular motion, whereas the second gif shows the giver going in more of an up and down motion. Remember to calibrate the amount of pressure, using feedback from the receiver. "For another technique, make a loose...

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Finger Fan

Finger Fan

Fanning will spread fingers to create an intermittent contact. "If your partner prefers sensation across her whole vulva, use your whole hand, with fingers flat and pressed together, to stroke back and forth across her vulva and clit. The subtle ripple between your...

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Clit Sandwich

Clit Sandwich

"Because the clit is incredibly sensitive, it usually doesn’t like to be touched directly right away. You can tease the clit by pinching the outer lips of her labia around your partner’s clit and hood to make a sandwich. Use your fingers to lightly squeeze and massage...

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Pussy Hug

Pussy Hug

"Give her a grounding touch with your whole palm covering her vulva, using some pressure and a little movement. I call this a “pussy hug.” It helps bring a calming sensation to her genitals without creating stimulation right away." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by...

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Pleasure Assist

Pleasure Assist

"We each have our own set of go-to techniques to get off, and we often end up treating these reliable sensations like Megan Rapinoe on the US women’s soccer team: we rely heavily on one star player, one technique, to kick the ball in the net. But that one player isn’t...

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Cervical Changes

Cervical Changes

"As the illustration above depicts, when women are closer to ovulation, and are more fertile, the cervix ascends higher into the vagina, softens, and opens. At this time, slipperier vaginal secretions come from it in greater volume. During phases of the cycle where...

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The G-Spot

The G-Spot

"To find your partner’s G-spot (the G stands for Gräfenberg), start by feeling the front wall of her vagina, reaching towards her belly button. According to research by OMGYes, 58 percent of women report that their G-spot is on the front wall of the vagina or slightly...

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Lady Boner

Lady Boner

"Like a penis, the clitoris gets engorged when your partner becomes aroused, and you can feel a clear difference between when the clit is flaccid and soft versus swollen and engorged." - Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 5: Pleasure Mapping, A GPS...

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Female Genital Engorgement

Female Genital Engorgement

  "In the same way your penis can be flaccid or erect, your partner’s tissues can change depending on how aroused she is, where she is in her hormonal cycle, how relaxed she is, and many other factors. When a woman is fully aroused, she lubricates, her clitoris...

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Beyond Satisfied Resource Guide

Beyond Satisfied Resource Guide

Book Animations Here are all the book animations in one place.   Product Recommendations Some of the products below are made by companies who sponsor my work and generously offer discounts to my audience, while others are simply those that I have experience with...

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Practice Clit

Practice Clit

"You can ask your partner to show you how she touches her clit. One way is to ask her to masturbate while you watch. But you can also get a sensory experience of her technique by asking her to demonstrate on your hand. Place your thumb between your index and middle...

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Therapy Resource Guide

Therapy Resource Guide

Therapy Resource Guide Therapy is amazing. I’m a big fan and proponent of therapy. True, there are a lot of bad therapists out there, and a lot of others that are good in general but just not a good fit for you in particular. But please don’t let that stop you from...

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Signature Move

Signature Move

"For most people, squirting requires vigorous, high-velocity stimulation. You won’t be able to provide your partner with high-intensity stimulation for more than a minute, so before you go for broke, it’s important to get your partner thoroughly warmed up and aroused....

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