(Cosmopolitan) Cunnilingus: Everything you need to know about the oral sex term

“Use the flat of your tongue instead of just the tip. This provides a larger surface area that’s easier to control. “You can stick your tongue out flat and move your tongue, or keep your tongue still and move your head up and down. Varying between the two will save your tongue and head muscles from being tired.” – Kenneth Play

 

Read more oral sex tips in the full article by Rose Surnow and Rachel Varina on Cosmopolitan Cunnilingus: Everything you need to know about the oral sex term

And read on for more of my tips that didn’t make it into the article!

The term cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words for the vulva (cunnus) and the verb “to lick” (lingō). Eating out is a slang term that’s been developed over time to refer to the same thing.

In my Sex Hacker Pro series, I cover some key fundamentals when it comes to cunnilingus. You can use the flat of your tongue, which provides a larger surface area. You can stick your tongue out flat and move your tongue, or keep your tongue still and move your head up and down. Varying between the two will save your tongue and head muscles from being tired. You can also use the tip of your tongue which will reduce the surface space. But, because you’re licking something the size of a pencil eraser, make sure you stay on target. Don’t just randomly lick around the area. Sucking also feels great to most women. A combo of sucking and licking, where you suck the clitoris up into your mouth and lick with your tongue is pro level. It doesn’t hurt to add some fingers for g-spot stimulation. For most women, stimulating more spots equals more reliable orgasms. The clitoris is innervated in a similar way to the head of the penis, so you can imagine how you like the head of your penis treated and do the same to her. 

For most people, they imagine that their genitals look or taste bad. To lower that discomfort, a shower beforehand can help. Other than that, keep in mind that some level of nervousness or discomfort when trying new sexual things is normal. Make sure you’re dating someone that would never shame you and is a giving and communicative sexual partner!

The best position is the one you feel the most comfortable in, where you can provide consistent sensation that feels good to your partner without burning yourself out. When it comes to pleasure, consistency is key. If you’re in an awkward position, it might hinder your performance.

When it comes to oral sex, there is still a risk of STIs. Know your risk tolerance. Dental dams are an unpopular but useful form of safer sex protocols.

 The version of throat-fucking for a vulva owner is to have their partner stick their tongue out and they rub their clit on it. The licker doesn’t have to be active at all, they just stick their tongue out flat and keep their head still and let their partner use their head!

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