“It may seem like a counterintuitive place to start, but one way to get a partner warmed up is to have her sit on my face. It’s a great mindfulness hack for my partner, because it flips roles on the Wheel of Consent. I’m no longer touching my partner for her pleasure; she’s now touching me for her pleasure, using my tongue as a tool to get herself off. All her attention goes to the sensations in her clit and how she wants to move her body across my tongue and lips. Meanwhile, I don’t have to move; I can just lay there with my tongue out, and as my partner moves on top of me, I learn a lot about what angle, pressure, and speed she likes as she pleasures herself. On top of all of that, face fucking helps my partner get into her body and feel the relationship between her own movement and pleasurable sensations; she shifts from passive receiver to active lover.” – Excerpt from Beyond Satisfied by Kenneth Play, Chapter 11: Oral sex, Face Fucking