(Women’s Health Mag) Here’s How To Make A Forced Orgasm Happen In BDSM Play

“With greater risk comes responsibility, and a greater need for a safe word.” – Kenneth Play

Read the full article Here’s How To Make A Forced Orgasm Happen In BDSM Play by Gabrielle Kassel for Women’s Health Mag

Or read on for more of my thoughts on forced orgasms:

In the context of BDSM, what is a forced orgasm? (I’d love an expert to explain that it’s a consensual thing that is pleasure-minded!). 

KP: A forced orgasm is a climax experienced by an individual who consensually gives up control during play, intimacy or a scene: a submissive typically experiences forced orgasm from a dominant’s specific stimulation. As the name suggests, a forced orgasm occurs even when the individual is trying to avoid climax. Forced orgasms are common during consensual BDSM and kink play and are the opposite of orgasm denial.  

If you want to explore them, how can you talk to your partner about it? Any tips for bringing up the act? 

KP: I think watching some porn from kink.com, watching some porn that involves forced orgasm, and asking your partner is a turn-on or turn-off, is the way to go.

Why is establishing a safe-word ahead of time so important? What other negotiations should you put into place ahead of time? 

KP: Having some hard limits negotiated beforehand is super important when it comes to this type of play. Hard limits are things that you absolutely don’t want to do under any circumstances. Safewords are essential to all types of kink play, and with greater risk comes greater responsibility. The more intense the power dynamic, the more negotiation should apply.

Are there any restraints or other other props you think can be helpful in achieving one of these Os? 

  1. KP: The zumio is like reducing the power of a hitachi into a single point, like consolidating the power of a sun in a candle. If you just find the right spot on the clitoris, it will blow her mind and send her into another universe.
  2. KP: Sybian/Cowgirl/Motorbunny ride on sex machines allow you to engage with impact play or nipple stimulation while your submissive is either penetrated or has their clit stimulated (or both depending on their desired attachment)


Why might a vibrator or other sex toy be helpful here? Are there any orgasms that are particularly powerful? 

KP: Vibrators are great labor saving devices that can let you focus on other things, like dirty talk, and kinky dynamics. If you have her sit on a sybian or cowgirl, you can still engage in impact play, which provides a ton of extra excitement and reinforces the kink that turns her on in the first place. Part of what kink play does is activate the sympathetic arousal (the system responsible fight or flight), which contributes to orgasm under the right conditions.

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