Mindfulness Hack to Overcome Performance Anxiety: Sensate Focus

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During this pandemic I know a lot of you are feeling stressed. Here’s my care package just for you, featuring a proven mindfulness sex hack to help you manage your anxiety and practice self-care. As many of us quarantine, it can be an amazing time to reconnect with our romantic partners who are isolating with … Read more

Epic Romantic Sex Hack (Free Tutorial on Pornhub)

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On this Valentine’s Day I want to embody the art of giving pleasure. In our world of screens, we don’t often spend intentional, whole-heartedly connected time with the people we love. We poke fun at memes like “forget flowers, find my G-spot”, but people really do value effort and being seen. I want to help … Read more

Tips n’ Tricks for Lickin’ Clits!

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Aka, how I starred in my first porn film I’m probably the most unlikely porn star. Average sized cock, Asian immigrant, a sex nerd / hacker / educator. But as of today’s film release, I’ve starred in a porno. Okay, to be fair, I’m not talking, like, Brazzers. The film that was released today, “Tips … Read more

How to Talk Dirty (and avoid awkwardness)

HuffPost has started an amazing new series that I’m so excited for!! Sex Ed for Grown-Ups will tackle everything you didn’t learn about sex in school — beyond the birds and the bees. And I’m even more excited to be featured in one of their first articles to announce the new series — “How To Talk … Read more

Ejaculation Etiquette

Sexual communication is about more than just arousal and preferences — sometimes it’s also about the climax experience. Alex Manley and I recently talked about this often overlooked topic for Ask Men’s article Ejaculation Etiquette: Where to Cum and What to Do After. Now, of course, if you’re using a condom with your sexual partner, this … Read more

5 Tips For Pleasing People With Vulvas

Regardless of gender, all of us our robbed of a comprehensive sex education, especially around pleasure. That’s why I decided to turn the “elusive” topic of female pleasure into practical sex education courses and advice, that people could take action on immediately. Only one in four cisgender women regularly report orgasming during penetrative intercourse,  but we … Read more

Sex Positions to be a Rim Job Pro

I get a lot of questions about anal play. Like, a lot. And besides recommending that you get good at everything else first, my second piece of top advice is that you follow the ranks of anal play and prep: rub, lick, finger, dick. Rub the outside of the anal entry to relax your partner and … Read more

Kenneth Talks with Tonic about the Elusive Squirt!

Kenneth recently chatted with Tonic writer Grant Stoddard about the real fountains of Bellagio — squirting. After 15 years of writing about sex, Grant had always wanted to master the skills to bring his partner’s to ejaculation, and finally did after he walked into Kenneth’s playlab. Check out the article to hear Grant’s experience witnessing … Read more