The Top 3 Qualities of an Amazing Lover

Ah, the eternal question: what will make me the best lover? The sex advice industry is full of answers, some more legitimate than others. But let’s clear the air right away: the answer isn’t a steel erection, magical endurance, or a porn-start penis — as I say in my trailer, it’s more about confidence and … Read more

Hacienda featured on The Love Drive!

My colleague and amazing friend Lila, of horizontal with Lila, recently was a guest on The Love Drive Show to talk about intentional communities, sex parties, and non-monogamy — and she gave a shout out to my work too! Sex parties and the sex positive community can be somewhat intimidating when you first decide to … Read more

Thrillist Article About a Gangbang Birthday Gift (Featuring Tips by Yours Truly)

I was featured in an article for Thrillist featuring a story about a gangbang birthday gift for my friend’s girlfriend. It’s truly amazing to have male friends who I feel comfortable playing with. For all you heterosexual guys out there concerned about how gangbangs and group play affect your sexuality, let me say that it’s not at all about sexual orientation. That’s in your mind, and only you decide what turns you on. This was about working as a team to celebrate the pleasure of one woman, and it was incredible. We worked so well together, and our mutual respect for each other’s boundaries made for safe, fun, and pleasurable group play. And, of course, the parameters for every group activity are negotiated by the participants, so as long as all parties consent to the play and set up their own personal boundaries, there’s no reason why all men can’t have the experience I did!