Squirting Secrets Shared!

There is very limited science on squirting, which my colleague Dr. Zhana has sifted through extensively while working on the Science of Squirting video (check it out on my Youtube!) for my online course. Dr. Zhana and I also talked squirting together on an episode of her Science of Sex Podcast — combining her academic … Read more

Mindfulness Hack to Overcome Performance Anxiety: Sensate Focus

sensate focus guide

During this pandemic I know a lot of you are feeling stressed. Here’s my care package just for you, featuring a proven mindfulness sex hack to help you manage your anxiety and practice self-care. As many of us quarantine, it can be an amazing time to reconnect with our romantic partners who are isolating with … Read more

The Science Behind Common Roleplaying Scenarios

Have you ever felt intrigued by living out a fantasy or experiencing a shift in dynamics with your partner? While some may feel these interests are taboo, the desire to roleplay in the bedroom is a very common and healthy one. It taps into instincts through the experience of “safe danger”: the exciting physiological reaction … Read more

Sex Positions to be a Rim Job Pro

I get a lot of questions about anal play. Like, a lot. And besides recommending that you get good at everything else first, my second piece of top advice is that you follow the ranks of anal play and prep: rub, lick, finger, dick. Rub the outside of the anal entry to relax your partner and … Read more

Tips for a Kinkier New Year

New year, new you, new sex life? Whether better sex officially made your Resolution list, or you’re looking to bring joy to January, it’s always fun to try something new in the bedroom. HuffPost recently interviewed me and other fantastic sex educators for new things to explore this year. Check it out here! In particular, … Read more

Post-Sex Hacks You Don’t Want To Skip

I’m loving this article on Vice I was quoted in about how the concept of aftercare applies to vanilla sex as much as it applies to kink scenes! For those who might not know, aftercare is an essential practice for the kink community to help facilitate a “soft landing” after an intense sexual experience. People … Read more