I was thrilled when Olivia Collette reached out to me to comment for this piece for RogerEbert.com about how to make sex scenes that women will like watching. This topic is so important to me, and I love reading what other people in the industry think about this issue, too!
When it comes down to it, a lot of media portrayals on sex do not focus on female pleasure. We rarely see stimulation of the clitoris. Consent and safer sex practices aren’t often shown. Women are almost never the initiators of sex. And, as much as I want to see these things in movies because I’d find them more enjoyable and realistic, I also think it’s important to remember that the media we consume does have a real impact on our lives. People always complain that porn gives men unrealistic expectations of women; why not push all of our media to show realistic sex scenes where the audience can tell that the woman is into and enjoying the experience?
So, to anyone working on a show or film that will feature a sex scene, please reach out to me if you’d like to talk about how to make scenes like this happen. As Collette says in the article, consulting experts is a good way to make sure your scene feels true, and I’d love to be involved in creating better depictions of sex.